My wife of 23 years and I are currently on month 2 in dealing with unfaithfulness. Without this resource, I honesty don’t know where we would be right now. Brad and Morgan know betrayal and all the things that go along with it. We are planning on attending their workshop in June 2024. If you are experiencing betrayal at the moment or are the betrayer, this is the resource for you.

Great podcast. However, I wonder from isn’t it just as risky for the betrayer to stay with their spouse ? The spouse is a flight risk just as the affair partner is. What if your spouse ends up leaving you anyway after you put in the work and time to rebuild the trust? Then you end up feeling like all the pain and hurt was for nothing

Beyond all the helpful recovery information people should take note of the couples teamwork in communication.

I’ve recently been betrayed and I cannot tell you how helpful this podcast has been to both my husband and I! We both are listening, writing notes and telling the other to listen to this podcast. And we haven’t even been listening for a week! We are so excited to listen to every episode we can and it’s such a validating podcast. The episodes are mostly short and to the point. Definitely recommend!

Absolutely love the content of this podcast as it’s helping me to heal on my own and understand as best I can now my husband could do this. Please share more content on the ambivalent unfaithful as that’s where my husband is. Still talking to AP but still showing up with me every day (although he cannot commit to the marriage). Also, Brad, PLEASE improve your mic quality. It is SO hard to hear you I have to turn my volume up and it’s muffled in the background. Morgan comes our clearer.

Took his workshop. Worth taking a flight, leaving my kid, hiring a dog sitter. He did make me have a whole change of heart when I thought to just leave. He has this healing vibe and most importantly, evidence based information. Love Guru who should have a Netflix program.

Thank you & learning a lot !

The hosts of this podcast, while giving some interesting information and views about affairs, err on the side of protecting marriages at all costs and are biased by their Christian viewpoint. Several episodes discuss the difficulties of getting out of long term affairs and the problems within marriages that lead to them, never contemplating that the affair might in fact be a healthier relationship in the long run if the marriage partners were not pressured by society to remain in unhappy relationships. There is never a mention of affairs that actually go on to happy relationships even though I’m like that does happen. The views are so adherent to this idea that the hosts even suggest that people resort to cognitive tactics to induce revulsion in the person with whom they are in love so that they can return to their dysfunctional marriage.

This was recommended by a friend who was horribly betrayed by her husband and I’m so grateful she sent it to me. I’m 3 weeks post discovery and I can tell you there is no better podcast out there for dealing with the outfall and rebuilding. My spouse is also listening and it helps so much in between our in person therapy sessions. We plan on moving back to Oklahoma next year and will do their program regardless.

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Thank you so much Brad and Morgan. I have no words to say how your podcast saved me and gave me hope. My whole world crashed after I learned of my husband’s infidelity but thanks to you now I see a light at the end of the tunnel. Love you guys so much!!

This podcast gave me the understanding and perspective I needed to heal my marriage. I wish I had found and listened to this as soon as I found out about my husbands affair to avoid many mistakes made but this podcast has been a roadmap to help heal our marriage

I felt like I was going crazy after finding out about my partner’s numerous affairs during our long term relationship. Listening to this podcast in conjunction with therapy has been such a huge help. I feel validated in my emotions, in accepting my role in what broke down our relationship, and now can work toward healing myself and possibly our relationship too.

Some helpful insight here but a little too biased towards keeping marriages together (I.e. the “disaster” that is inevitable for the children when parents split up). What about the disaster of staying. They don’t give much room for feeling ok for marriage to end.

Brad I hope you get a chance to read this. I just wanted to say thank you for creating this. It’s been the number one reason we’re healed today. I’ve done an intensive and coaching with you and you were everything we hoped for when working with you. My wife and I are 100% restored. R and H Morrison

Listened to a number of episodes so as to not throw the baby out with the bath water. There are some points that are useful and help to normalize the experience but there are some fundamental issues with their philosophy that I find Incredibly problematic. Even a broken clock is right twice a day but with an issue as difficult and traumatic as infidelity, I wouldn’t recommend it. The biggest, and they admit this is “going to step on some toes” is that they suggest the betrayed look at “what vulnerabilities they created in the marriage”. This is 100% blameshifting and toxic. No one creates vulnerabilities in their partner. We create our own vulnerabilities and it is our own responsibility to share those with our partners. We can look at how we contribute to a dynamic that makes it difficult for our partners to feel safe with us but another’s failure to recognize their own internal process is their responsibility alone. Brad provides an example of a woman who cheated because her husband betrayed her confidence which in turn made her feel like she couldn't trust him. The husband did not create that vulnerability! He certainly hurt his wife and needs to take ownership of that (as we all should take ownership of our transgressions and how they affect people) but the husband is not responsible for her actions in response to the hurt. I cannot ever recommend any healing resources that even hint at suggesting this to a betrayed. They also talk a lot about betrayal being traumatic then completely discount the effects of trauma in their discussion of challenging automatic thoughts. This is a common CBT technique but can be retraumatizing when used in this situation. I’d encourage them to really dive deep into the trauma literature to understand how trauma is processed differently than regular memories because they miss the mark time and time again and as they say a bad therapist can be worse than no therapy at all. This is also supposed to be a team effort but most episodes are Brad talking the overwhelming majority of the time and Morgan asking follow up/clarifying questions every now and again. His mansplaining is tiring.

I came across this podcast the day after finding out my husband’s affair. I don’t think I could have made it through that first week without it. Trying to find a marriage counselor for immediate help was next to impossible and I don’t think you could ever get all this info out of a few therapy sessions regardless. My husband is now listening and we are excited to start the master class. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts!

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This podcast has been incredibly helpful. I really hope you come out this a season 2. Thank you both for speaking so honestly and openly about something is often shameful to talk about which hinders healing and recovery ❤️

My husband had an affair after 20 years of marriage. We are high school sweethearts and the betrayal was devastating. I immediately thought he didn’t love me and that there was no way we would be able to stay together. This podcast is the only thing that made me feel like we have hope. We both got so much from the podcast that we actually did a retreat with Brad in Tulsa. It was so helpful and is what has led us to believe our marriage can not only be saved, but stronger than ever. I can’t thank Brad and Morgan enough for sharing their wisdom.

These podcast have helped me be more mindful of not only my self deception and bad habits that lead to my affair and my reactions to handling the recovery process, but aware of what my wife is going through and needs that have aided in saving our marriage. Looking forward to meeting in Tulsa soon!

Where did the earlier episodes go? Wanted to share specific ones with my partner please re upload all episodes

Please stop interrupting the cohost it’s absolutely rude inconsiderate and if you’d like to have a cohost allow them the opportunity to share it’s abrasive and takes away from the meat of a discussion. Perhaps do it alone if you’re going to keep interrupting.

You guys are a huge help !

Our marriage counselor at the time recommended this podcast and I am so thankful. I had just discovered my husband was having an affair and it saved our marriage. I could barely think straight but these podcast walked me through what I was feeling and what we were going through. Such great information! After listening to the podcasts, we started zoom therapy sessions with Brad. He’s amazing and saved our marriage. I’m beyond thankful. You and Morgan are a blessing to the world. Thank you!

Episode 58 so much help. My husband was and is so great. When Brad said the nicest people , a guy i looked up to. A light bulb went off. My husband had the divorced childhood with many other complications from the divorce. The affair happened at year 26 in our marriage. He had almost a divorce from his job he loves that year, Almost. His self deception was that this did not bother him, and other things he would bury and say did not bother him. so my good marriage, i assumed he really mentally knew how to handle rejection and disappointment. The sexy pic from this lady we both knew , hit his phone right after the work rejection. he ended this friends with benefits affair, but she let me know. she was in it for other reasons and had no idea of his self deception . he did not want a booty call. we are both actually uncovering layers about each other and we feel free from so many things we both stuffed. A good marriage was us. We like the new marriage much better. Thank You !

Tell brad to speak up!!! So quiet :/

The podcast has a ton of helpful information to normalize the process of healing from an affair, offers tips and insights about ways to work towards recovery, and information on resources to access. Having listened to most of the episodes with my partner, we both noticed that Brad tends to talk over Morgan quite often. There are several times he interrupts her, negates or devalues her statements and insights, or discounts her contribution to the topic. My partner and I were both so annoyed with this pattern that it made it hard to perceive him as a credible source of information, particularly since Morgan is also Brad’s wife. Perhaps I’m too sensitive to this myself, but it’s hard to hear a pattern of one partner silencing another while simultaneously advising on recovery after a major relationship wound.

So much healing and tools

We are only a couple episodes in but it ha a already helped so much! Thank you for creating this!

I am only 10 episodes in but learning so much on how to heal! Thank you

Love the podcast first off! I’ve just learned of husband’s infidelity & have yet to find any literature on dealing with the experience during lockdown. Would love to hear what you’d have to say to those who have recently been faced with unfaithfulness from a partner during the COVID19 pandemic. Where some would want to separate to have clarity, we cannot..when we prefer “in person” counseling, we can’t..& just the added stress this pandemic adds to the traumatic time of learning about a partner cheating. Thank you & prayers to all to stay safe, healthy & sane!💛

Everything you both talk about is point on. You are absolutely 100% right and while listening to your podcast it’s like your speaking directly to my situation. Your so appreciated and I’m hoping this gives me some guidance to start healing from such a devastating event with my partner of 20 years.

I love this podcast and would love to hear more! Desperately seeking wise counsel!

I listened to every episode as quickly as possible! My husband cheated and I was broken. This actually helped me to begin healing and also to understand, if that’s really possible, the reasons he felt the need to cheat. I would love to see more episodes as this is a great podcast! I have recommended it to other couples going through the same thing. My husband wouldn’t listen to it, but I continued through every episode. Bless you in this calling to help others heal!

I know you don’t me or my situation personally. How can ALL of your words hit me like you’re literally speaking to my specific trauma? I have been betrayed and am fighting so hard to heal. Brad and Morgan offer such positive advice. I even share some that are so positive for my husband to hear as well. A goal is to attend one of your retreats! Tracie

Brad and Morgan are amazing! They’re real and they just seem to “ get it”. Highly recommend!

The best information out there is right here!

I have been listening to the podcasts by myself because my husband doesn’t like “that kind of thing”. I recently asked him to just listen to one with me and he agreed it was very helpful for him. I am looking forward to having a loving, trusting marriage again with the help of these podcasts.

Understated quiet voice is super-annoying

I’m not much on reviews but felt like I should thank you guys for taking the time to offer this help to people who desperately need it

With cheating/affairs/distrust there are SOOOO many intricate details that every other expert ignores! I have read every self-help book, listened to every expert video, and even been to therapy. None of the smart individuals that I was hearing from got to any of the details that were causing problems in our day to day. No one dealt with the intricate ins and outs of the problems that spurred from infidelity. This FINALLY DOES! After each and every self-help session & after every book, I kept finding myself wondering why are they not diagnosing the problem, why are they just telling me why cheaters cheat, and why trust is hard to repair...those are tertiary issues. To really fix something you have to be getting into the nitty-gritty of the every day problems...that continuous cycle of issues. I always kept thinking, the devil is in the details and maybe it’s too hard for even experts and therapists to handle those minute problems (all the while knowing that was the key to solving it). These guys do just that! They get to that diagnoses (my version of the word not theirs) of the real issues and repair those details. It’s extremely hard to articulate in a review but I’m telling you just give the first few episodes a listen and your life will be changed regardless of if you are the cheater or cheated! These guys are pros and it’s free! I can’t thank you guys enough for this! For the first time I don’t feel like I’m living in some twilight zone world where everyone just tells the victim how they need to fix it and the cheater takes a back seat. It’s a two-way street 100% but most all of the other help out there really ultimately puts all the work on the victim (even if they do it in a sensitive way). This really gets to both partners issues and how each one has to work to correct it!

Your wisdom is spot on. I am so thankful that God led me to your podcast. I am feeling hopeful for the first time in a long time. Thank you.

I love the messages in each episode. The only reason I gave it 4/5 stars is His voice is way too quiet. I have to crank it up just to hear him; then when anyone else talks it’s SUPER loud.

I wanted to say thank you for all of this wonderful information. My husband has cheated on me twice. It’s been extremely difficult. This podcast has helped validate my feelings and it has helped me deal with the aftermath of the affair. I hope you continue to make more podcast with the focus on healing and being whole again.

Recap: the betrayed spouse is 100% innocent and moral. The spouse who had an affair is 100% responsible for the marital breakdown. This podcast is great ammunition for a spouse looking to drive more of a wedge between you and your partner.

The older episodes were great and helpful, but as I began listening to the newer ones it seemed like they spent way too much time trying to get people to sign up for the master class. One episode was 17 mins long and the last five minutes was just them saying how important it is to sign up for the master class! Excessive, in my opinion.

Mark, I love ya, but the mix of “ Viking/ Jew “ is not something you’d want. I have that mix. The Viking seeks to purge the Jew. You’re basically seen as pissing in the gene pool that is mythical and maniacal In its quest for the false narrative of ‘purity’. Louie Pak

By FAR this has been the most helpful resource for me in the aftermath of an affair and trying to work thru the healing process!

Brad & Morgan truly care about people. They practice what they preach and help people, they go above and beyond to help those who are struggling with their marriage. Brad teaches timeless principles which can help EVERYONE regardless of circumstance to build a strong, amazing marriage! I didn’t realize this type of relationship was possible. By listening to this podcast I have become a better husband, a better father, a better employer, I’m a better person in all areas of my life. I have had some traumatic experiences (most of the trauma was self inflicted) and I attribute my incredible transformation to learning and applying the principles taught by Brad and Morgan. I am so grateful I found this podcast. I’m not out of the woods yet but my wife and I are doing weekly coaching and are working through Brad & Morgan’s master class. It has been a life changing experience! Thank you Brad & Morgan, you are truly making a positive difference in so many lives! Me, my wife and our 3 kids can’t thank you enough!